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Some of the biggest toddler battles with both parents and friends are fought over sharing toys. This is normal because their happiness are sometimes based on their possessions. Toys are part of their comfort zones that they will not just share to anyone. Sometimes they do proto-sharing, they are willing to let their friends look or touch their possession as long as they are still holding on to it.
The most effective way of teaching children is by showing a good example. During snack-time, ask, "Do you want a slice of my apple? Let me share it with you." and you can also say "Daddy might also want a slice apple, let's share it with daddy. Always use the word "share", so they will learn what it means and to aware them of others' needs.
When children share, even if it's proto-sharing, appreciate them by telling "I'm happy you shared your toy to me (sibling or your friend). They'll be happy too. They'll be proud of themselves for sharing and that they please you, and in time generous behavior will come out naturally.
If you know that the child have this precious or new toy, and some friends are coming over for a play date. Tell the child earlier to keep it and tell the child that they can keep it because it is special to them, but explain that all other toys will be for all to play and share.
Don't make such a big fuss if your child didn't share. Let them know, gently, that you are disappointed. Tell them "maybe next time you are ready to share". Remember that it is normal. ;)
They will learn as well to share from friends. Try not to get involve with every little battle over toys. They will learn to compromise when their playmates go away because of their selfish behavior.
Try to be patient, if sharing remains a difficulty for your child. Look for the reasons behind this behavior, as I have said before, they maybe possessive of this precious thing because of he feels secure with it. Give them all the love, time and support that they need to work through it and keep the sharing lessons for later.
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